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This week’s prompt by Wicked Wednesday is to take one comment and write a blog post about it. I actually did this recently when so many people responded to the breast bondage in the story A Tight Journey into (Sub)space. The comments were the inspiration for the BDSM Bondage Extra Tight: Using Elastic Rope post.
In todays’ post, I’d like to focus on comments I have received in the past year that have stood out for me.
Unexpected
First, I want to say that I’m incredibly grateful for any comments I get, even if it’s just alike. When I set up my blog, I remember wondering why I should even set up a comments section. No one was gonna read or use it anyway. Now, two years later, I have garnered nearly nine hundred comments, not counting my own. I value this a lot.
I remember sitting here, alone, trying to write stories and without any feedback, I got nowhere. To receive any feedback is fantastic and especially when people take an interest in what I have to say.
Tuning Fork
Sometimes comments hit just the right spot. This one by Mary Wood has been on my mind a lot lately:
‘Probably, our soul is like a tuning fork. And the music that matches the sound of the tuning fork, to our liking. But the tuning fork can change its tone in accordance with the state of the soul. Therefore, we do not like the same music always, but the one that is most relevant to the current moment.’
Mary Wood – https://www.lizblackx.nl/music-therapy-taking-me-up-and-down/
It rang true. Music I love a lot one day can lose its power only weeks later. I love the image of the tuning fork. Sometimes the vibrations of certain music fit your mood, while weeks later, I can’t imagine why I loved it so much.
Sex Toy Review Comment
A completely different comment is this one:
‘Thank you for this review. I’ve had a thrusting vibrator for a while now and I had relegated it to the manual dildo drawer. But your tip on moving it further out, and using the thruster at the entrance instead… that is a game-changer! Thank you 😊’
thebarefootsub – https://www.lizxlikes.com/review-of-bestvibe-5-telescope-7-vibration-thrusting-dildo/
It was the first time I heard from someone using something I said in a review. I’m used to writing my reviews, having them published and never hearing from it again. It was a significant boost to hear someone actually read the review and used the information I wrote.
Bimbofication Comments
What has been immensely influential for me was the feedback I received on Mandy Gets Fixed Part 1. The story isn’t mainstream, and you can hardly call it feminist or fitting anywhere in the current zeitgeist. And yet, despite all my worries, the response I got was very positive. I even had to turn it into a series and finish the story.
I had not expected this. I was bracing myself for the harshest criticisms possible. The response I got changed a lot for me. It told me there is an audience out there for what I write – my weird, against-the-grain erotica.
Comments Are Life
The comments I receive on my blog are what keep me going. Sometimes I write a draft, and at night I wonder why I haven’t heard from anyone yet- yes, before publishing.
The replies can spark new thoughts, new posts and new stories. Before I started blogging, I never knew it could be like this. I had not foreseen how important it would become for me. I can only end this post by saying thank you for your comments and please: keep them coming!
Like you, I value every comment on my blog, and when reading other blogs, I always try to add something to the comments. There’s so much inspiration out there, and many times inspiration indeed comes from our readers 🙂
~ Marie xox
Yes, indeed, and it’s something I really hadn’t expected to happen when I started this endeavour 🙂
I don’t know how many of my own blog posts have grown out a simple comment. They are invaluable.
I’m not as good with commenting as I should be. I barely have time to keep up with my own writing. But blogging is inherently about community…and the only way we build community is through connection and conversation. Blogs were set up to be just that…conversations. So, without the comments, who are we talking to?
Me neither. I read more than what I leave comments to, or I come up with a comment in my head but forget to actually post it 🤭
I like your definition of blogs 🙂
I try my best to comment when I can. I don’t always know what to say. The comments to my own writing, (especially subject matter very alien to most readers), I’ve received have definitely helped me heal. You have all Inspired blogs or prose based on interaction.
Thankyou Liz for sharing. Great post that feedback helps us all
Swirly x
Thanks Swirly
Like you, I also don’t always know what to say, but I often try to find something. It’s the feeling of community that works for me 🙂
Love comments as well. Sometimes it feels like you are screaming into the void… I try to comment as well because I know how much it helps. Often, a whole new post can come from a comment. Also, there have been times I had an idea in my head of what I wrote or what I meant, but from the comments I see it did not convey. I appreciate that so I know how to fine tune my message. Also, enjoyed Mandy gets fixed, thanks for the link!
I know all about screaming into the void – self-publishing on Amazon without any feedback isn’t any fun either.
It’s funny how one sentence can speak to people, one I often didn’t pay any extra attention to.
And thanks about Mandy Gets Fixed, I’m glad you enjoyed it 🙂
Great post Liz – I did smile when I saw u picked out a Mary Wood comment – I find her and Lisa Stone can on occasions be extremely insightful and on others – well let’s just say it reads like another person entirely writing the comment lol!!
May xx
Yes, I know what you mean!
I was a bit sad I didn’t pick one of yours or Marie’s, as my most faithful readers, but this one really struck a chord with me. And you know me, gotta be honest 😅
Oh no – i wasn’t meaning that at all – will explain in a msg 😉 – i think Mary and Lisa are very faithful readers – I know i enjoy their comments 😉 x
I didn’t quite get your hints. Yes, I am a living person and I always write all the comments on my own. Yes, they can be different in nature, just like the posts that bloggers write are not always and not all are homogeneous. If the article is deep and aroused interest, then the response will be appropriate. And if in the post there are only tits and pussy, then excuse me, I have them too. What should I write here? Only WOW!
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I was flattered to see that you noted my humble comment in your article. Thank you for that.
I was somewhat surprised by your attitude towards comments at the beginning of blogging. The consolation is that now you have changed your mind on this matter. I think I won’t be mistaken if I say that commentators are the tip of the iceberg for your readers. After all, not all readers write comments on what they read. I know a lot of people who don’t even think of this idea.
And like that tuning fork, if the topic and article interested readers, then there will be more comments, And if not, respectively 0. Here’s a hint of what to write and how to write.
And yet, when a blogger writes an article, it is unlikely that he wants no one to see or read it. In this regard, I often reflect on the fact that on many sites in the comment sections, bloggers write: “your thoughts are always welcome” or “I will be glad to have your comments.” But it often happens that I write a comment, but it is not posted. I understand that writing an article or writing a commentary on it is not the same thing. But. I read your post with interest. I understood what you are writing about and expressed my opinion. Why don’t you post a comment? I don’t write anything criminal or nasty.
I hope that not only you, but also other bloggers will read this. And this will help them change their position. I am glad that this topic was raised. It’s like a tribune for readers. And let writers today be in the role of readers.
Thanks for not deleting my comment.
Your regular reader Mary Wood.
Thank you for this comment, Mary.
I really enjoy your comments as they’re always in-depth and show you read and understand the post. As the Wicked Wednesday’ prompt suggested, comments often spark inspiration or lead to interesting discussions.
Personally, I only delete comments which are clearly spam and often only say ‘Great post!’ If that is your only message, then please hit the ‘like’ button and I’ll know you appreciated the content. I agree that when your input is on-topic, there’s no reason not to post it.
I hope you’ll continue to read my texts, Mary, I appreciate you 😄
Comments are sort of like validation. They do make us feel good.
Exactly. Then it’s not like you’re talking into the void 😊
It makes the whole experience so much more gratifying.
Yes, definitely ☺️