I hate aftercare. Usually, when my dominant and I play, we round off our play with an orgasm for me. And after an orgasm, I just want to sleep. I’m not one of those who like to cuddle and kiss afterwards. I want to turn around and go to sleep.But …
Spanking as Domestic Discipline As I described in this post about spanking, I’ve come to love impact play. We’ve added spankings to our regular play. And yet it’s still difficult for me to submit to a spanking, or even worse, ask for them. Why is it so hard, and what …
Blindfolds I love blindfolds. Almost every time we play, there’s a blindfold around my eyes. And if it doesn’t close off my eyesight enough, I’ll close my eyes myself. To me, it’s an instant journey into a submissive mindset and one step closer to subspace. So surely that counts for …
Play in BDSM Many people, myself included, talk about ‘play’ when talking about BDSM-related interactions. This has always struck me as odd. It’s not just a game to me. It’s part of my personality, part of who I am. And trust me, no matter how much I enjoy being spanked, …
Four Steps of Getting Things Back These past few weeks, I’ve not been well. I’m trying out a new diet in an attempt to lose some weight, but I’m struggling to find the right balance. It proves to be difficult to still get all nutrients and vitamins when forgoing all …
When the lockdown began, I was pretty chill about it. Sure, I can stay at home. No problem. Been doing that for the past four years. How hard can it be?And indeed, the lockdown brought few changes to my everyday life. My husband started to work from home full-time, I …
Content Warning: There are mentions of disease in this text Surrender One of the aspects of BDSM I struggle with is giving up control. Literally surrendering to my Dominant. No matter the circumstances, I’m always in control, or so I like to think. As the submissive, I know I’m supposed …
Discipline When we first started with spankings, I quickly went online to gather information. How did other couples incorporate this in their BDSM-lifestyle? Should it be a punishment? Can we do this daily?During this search, I found the ‘Domestic Discipline’ community. Many people do spankings regularly, both in- and outside …
Strange Times All you hear on TV, on the news, and even during commercials is: we’re living in strange times. And yes, they definitely are. In my day to day life, not much has changed. My husband works from home instead of from the office, and I don’t go out …
Service Submission I’ve always seen myself as an impatient and quite lazy person. Submissive too, yes, but not the easiest and most pliable one. My submissive dreams weren’t about serving men tea and coffee. In my wildest dreams, I serve men with my body, but with little choice or input …
