Friends were my theme of 2019. I joined the BDSM community, and I discovered why I hadn’t been able to make friends for over twenty years: kink. I had several best friends during my high school years, but we connected over different things than sexuality. We had a similar lifestyle, …
In previous posts, I have written about my experience with SAD, like here. I even wrote a battle plan. And you know, I thought I was doing pretty well. I was taking my vitamin pills, going out with friends, attending munches and peer ropes. I did everything I had planned …
Home, Place or Person ‘That’s not where Liz lives’ our friends from Denmark had remarked when they passed by my house for the first time, only to ring our doorbell thirty minutes later, because, yes, that was where I lived. It was a simple remark and an honest mistake, but …
Tell me About … Pain Everyone’s Emotions I’m an empath. I carry the weight of the world on my shoulders. I can read about a child with a severe disease, and it can literally ruin my day because I feel so sad for the child and its family. Yesterday my …
Procrastination In the original version of this post, I had changed the theme from motivation to procrastination. But after the first paragraph, it became clear that my focus was on motivation after all. It is a theme I struggle with. The last few years, now that I have all my …
2009-2019 I don’t make resolutions. I’m convinced if there’s something that you want to change in your life, you should do so at that moment. Don’t wait until the first of January to better your ways. However, there was one time I did make resolutions. I remember being at my …
Days Filled with Sex Something that has always boggled me is that I never dream of sex. I mean, I’m a sex blogger, erotica writer, I test sex toys, but the times I have dreamt of having intercourse during sleep is less than five. And even then, I often got …
Yuletide wishes and may all your dreams come true in 2020! Enjoy the time you spend with family, no matter how difficult it may be. Try not to stress too much. It’s a holiday. As long as we are together and share the love we have for each other. Acknowledge …
“Lying again?” When I hear this phrase, I cringe. I have so many triggers in regards to lying. Because, as a kid, I used to lie a lot. And I had my reasons for it too. Then I started to work in retail where, yet again, I couldn’t be sincere. …
Control and Trust Being a submissive, I give up control. That’s kind of in the job description. But it’s not that easy, nor that straightforward. Because tied to control is trust. You can only give up control unless you trust the person you’re handing it over to. Or, as in …
