Still Waters Run Deep Grounds I’ve always been the silent type. Part of this is my personality, the other part is learned behavior. I learned at an early age that it was better to keep quiet in order not to unleash anger in my mother. Later in life, I also …
A big man, clad in leather, slashing out with his long whip. His vibe is mean and intimidating. Everyone around him cowers in fear. Is this what being a Dominant in BDSM is like? Do you really need to wear leather or use painful implements? What if I don’t like …
No Hugs, Just Spanking I’m one of the most unromantic people in the world. That’s why I decided to take this challenge when I saw this meme. In all fairness, I push my husband away more often than that I show affection. I don’t do hugs, cuddles, and random kisses. …
All or Nothing Early on, I have acknowledged and accepted my submission. For the longest time, I craved having a sexual Dominant male in my life. In my dreams, I would give up everything. Without a clear picture of how this would impact my life, I wanted to surrender my …
First coming across the subject of submission can be intimidating. The idea of giving up control may turn you on, but what does this mean in real life? Should I submit to every dominant person I meet? Will I lose all of my personality? Do my wishes even count? I’m …
Virgos Virgos are down to earth, tidy and well-organized. Another prominent feature is perfectionism. I don’t identify with all these characteristics (clean house, where?), but I’m definitely a perfectionist. For as long as I can remember, I’ve been one. I think some of it has to do with how I’ve …
Is BDSM Dangerous? The mainstream media depict BDSM as something highly dangerous. You see people with mascara-stricken faces with tears in their eyes. The emphasis is on latex, leather hoods, cuffs, whips, clamps. And yet, I don’t see BDSM as strictly dangerous. You seek limits, sure, so you might get …
Silence I come from a family of non-talkers, on both sides actually. We would talk about our day. We would talk about the music we liked, the movies we watched, where to go on vacation. But don’t you dare talk about your inner life. We didn’t share our ailments, our …
Degrading, Normal or Kinky This is a tough subject for me. I don’t always recognize what is humiliating and what isn’t. After all, it’s a complex emotion, and with how I’ve been raised, I don’t know exactly which things are considered to be ‘normal’ or ‘regular kinky’ and which aren’t. …
When I Grow Up I have this one family member who, according to the stories, had only one dream of what she wanted to do when she grew up. She wanted to be a teacher. So that’s what she studied. After her studies, she worked as a teacher for many …
